Showing posts with label Effectiveness. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Effectiveness. Show all posts

Sunday, April 1, 2012

Supporting our Supporters



Caregivers rarely beat their own drums.  As a group they don't see the things they do as heroic they simply plug along giving and providing in response to the needs that present themselves in front of them.  It is expected that families will care for the young, sick and frail.  As a society little value is placed on the tireless advocacy and care provided to those who need it.


I have been an active participant in programs that support caregivers young and old.  Trying to garner support for these groups has been an uphill battle.  People are reluctant to cast themselves as martyrs or to beat their own drums.  They simply meet the tasks before them and wade through one after another out of love, commitment or a sense of responsibility.


What brought me to writing this latest post is reflecting on the role that the local chapter of the MS Society has played in my life since my diagnosis.  I've served on the Board of Directors for the Young Carers Initiative and volunteer at the local chapter of the MS Society where meeting the challenges facing caregivers is a frequent discussion.  What is also difficult is reaching overburdened caregivers both young and old to give them support and replenish them to keep doing what the do.  They too do a poor job at the beating their own drum about the work they do and the significance of the contributions they make.


The local chapter of the MS Society has been a cornerstone in my life since my diagnosis.  At the local chapter I have been an active volunteer as I worked through my own grief cycles.  They allowed me to contribute and be a part of their mission to improve the lives of those living with MS as I dealt with the loss of my career, my image and grappled with my sense of self.  From the early days following my diagnosis they provided me with information, equipment, exposure to modified yoga and exercise programs, support groups and a friendly visitor program for people who can not get out. My children have benefited from the Kidz Klub program where they have had opportunities to attend amusement parks, and engage in activities with other children who live with a parent with MS.  I have participated in creating a newsletter, provided educational in-services to newly trained health professionals, provided office support, and assisted in writing grant proposals.  


The more I reflected on the role they have held in my life for the last six years, the more committed I became to supporting them.  The MS Society of Canada is experiencing some significant growing pains due to decreased revenue.  They receive no government funding and rely solely on public donations to enable continuing research goals and support at the local level to those living with MS.  They are in a position to need to make some serious decisions about where their priorities lie.  I only hope they are able to find a way to keep offering supports "on the ground" and to provided needed dollars to enable research to continue.


I would encourage you to complete this survey to let the MS Society of Canada know what is important to you: (Canadians only)


This 'renewal initiative' outlines the potential priorities.
http://mssociety.ca/en/community/mssc/Renewal.htm

Here is the survey (Click on the survey monkey link)
http://mssociety.ca/en/pdf/RI-Paper-...-Solutions.pdf



And finally to consider making a contribution to the local MS WALK in support of those who support people living with MS.
http://mssoc.convio.net/site/TR/MSWalk/OntarioDivision?px=1256015&pg=personal&fr_id=1296



Sunday, October 9, 2011

Do What Works

Multiple Sclerosis has been an insidious thief gradually stealing my energy, flexibility, strength, coordination, sensation, balance and perception of where my body is in space. As a result I am no longer able to do many things the way I used to. I have had to leave a job I loved rather abruptly and make many modifications to my life. My career was such a focus in my life, when I lost it I lost much of my self definition.

In 2008 I was humbled yet again by this disease and bought a mobility scooter. I worried what other people would think when they saw me. This big machine made me so visible, yet I felt that society would classify me as invisible/expendable. What I found was that a blessing lurked not far beneath this hardship. I was able to move about freely and gracefully with out worry of falling. I could once again "browse" while shopping and I had energy to do more and BE more in this world.

I have decided  to dispense of my ego and just "do what works".

To my surprise I did not cease to exist. People were not mean or critical, dismissive or judging. In fact they often looked me right in the eye and met my smile with one in return. The "world" reflected back to me what I put out there. This world once again showed me that there was indeed a place for me.

I have been able to see that people will respond to me in just the way that they would have before despite my disability. They will see kindness as kindness, generosity as generosity, and genuineness for what it is. Although, the way I interact with the world in a physical sense may have changed, the world remains as it always was. Opportunities are plentiful and reasons for hope, abundant.

So my goal from here forward will be to continue doing what "works" and to find a new place to focus my energies, and talents. A place where I can begin to grow again. I am not sure where that place will be just yet but I now have renewed faith that there is indeed a spot waiting for me.
“There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside you.” Maya Angelou